Footballers - To come out or not to come out that is the question ....

A tiny little blog inspired by a BBC3 programme on gay footballers.

This is told by a straight woman who is into football in a big way I'm even a season ticket holder for Tamworth FC (yes we did play Everton in the FA Cup) but let's get back to the matter in hand.

This is my blog so these are my opinions, I know plenty will disagree with me but you know when you have something welling up in you that you have to spout forth, well this is one of those times.

To come out is a personal choice and shouldn't be forced on footballers for one, but maybe and I have no experience of being within a team so this is just a spectator's view, maybe if gay footballers who wanted to come out, did so en masse then of course it would make the papers, but maybe it wouldn't be so hard on them, coming out individually.

Many years ago footballers would have been chanted at for being of a different colour - in my experience that doesn't happen so much anymore (well in my club it doesn't) and we have a rainbow of colours that play for our club.  There is the odd comment you sometimes hear from other fans, but then isn't that their ignorance showing through?

I think what is needed here is for the FA and all the clubs in the leagues including non league clubs such as my own is to really openly talk on this matter, maybe this documentary might help, I really hope so because who cares whether you be a plumber, dentist, doctor or footballer whether you are gay or not.

Being a footballer in my experience involves a lot of banter between the lads but all of it harmless and can be because you like a different kind of music, banter is a great thing and I think in these enlightened times certainly in my club and I know full well we aren't in the Premiership, that if someone said they were gay I think the answer would be no big deal. 

We live in different times now, the footballers of today have been brought up with gay people at school, laughed at gay comedians jokes, maybe even know someone gay.

So really in essence what I'm saying is that if a footballer came out as gay, just as if an actor or anyone else I might know of came out of their own volition why would I care?  I enjoy football for football's sake not for who they sleep with.

My blog, my opinion, I truly hope in 2012 that we embrace each other as human beings not by the colour of our skin or our sexuality.

Jewels xxx

Typical Libran?

Tiny little off the cuff, as always blog on the the speck in the dust of the world that I call mine.

I've never really thought of myself as a typical Libran sure I can't make up my mind sometimes, see it's taken me a couple of hours to write this blog as I was umming and ahhing over whether to do it, so I think there goes a tick in the typical Libran box there, a trait a lot of us Librans share.

That is where I thought it stopped.

That is until I decided I had many traits when I thought about it.  Well I didn't but I do now.

I used to flick through the newspapers thinking yeah yeah maybe that might fit me.  Now a huge world of beauty has opened up to me.  No I'm not talking about the sort of beauty between a man and woman or man and man or woman and woman, but the sort that sees beauty in nature and as such I've taken up photography, only a little mind and I'm not great at it - but if you don't try, you don't get do you!

I'd been feeling ill for a couple of weeks (yes I can hear the aww poor Julie at the back) nothing really just a bad case of the flu, then I kept dreaming about taking black and white photos.  Weird huh?  Yeah I thought so too, that's why I thought there has to be something in this let's dig a little deeper.  So I dug and it was like woah I started taking pictures of a park down the road from me absolutely loved that, felt much better for actually doing something and something that I wanted to do.

Today I couldn't wait to rush into the garden and take some photographs in no way are they brilliant, but they're my little stab at bringing beauty into my life.

I'll add one for you to like or dislike it's up to you, I kinda like it but I would say that wouldn't I!

Typical Libran - hmm I think typical human being really who is having a whole new world of experiences opening up to her and I'm grateful for it.  Sure I'm easy going and like things in balance but don't we all?  I'm not saying I don't believe in astrology I just think we all have unfulfilled potential in all of us.

I'm just branching out now into a whole new world and yes this was a photo I took today!

Jewels xxxxx

LOVE is a four letter word?

Well of course Love is a four letter word, but I'm meaning do we think of it as a bad thing when we're not in a relationship.  Hell no would be answer for me!  I thought I would write a little short blog on love.

Love hasn't alightened on my shoulder yet, maybe it will maybe it won't, if you read my previous blogs you'll understand, my experience of men shall we say was a little tarnished due to being beaten up and I'm saying it again because I want all the people who are out there right now to think it's not just me, Julie is a normal girl it happened to her.

Enough of that though, what I wanted to express in this blog is that although chances have been offered to me in this life I've not taken them up, but know I am ready to take on those chances.  A woman of 38 saying she's willing to take a chance, yes, you are right I have left it a bit late, but who is to say what is around the corner, my prince might come now, in 10 years time or never.  It's about being happy and secure enough in myself that's important it's a corny old saying but to let others love you you really have to love yourself and how many of us do that.  Jewels raises her hand!  I do!

So many of you will have had good experiences and I think that's fantastic and wish you all the luck in the world on your journey through life with the one that you hold dear, for those who have had their world tarnished by others, my advice though I am ABSOLUTELY no expert on matters of the heart is to stop trying to look for love.  If love wants to seek you out it will, you can of course try all the usual things like going out to bars, dating sites but in my opinion we all have a destiny, a path that has been laid out in front of us, if that path is winding and a bit rocky I'm sorry about that but if you're path is filled with gold I'm happy for you too.

Love is a four letter word, but in the best sense of it, I'm happy being me right now, should someone come knocking now I would let them in, also I'm not one of those clingy birds I think that's a mistake a lot of women make they don't let men be themselves or try to change them or if you are in a gay relationship just change the wording around.

Be yourself, just be, people love you for the energy you give off, you give off positive vibes you get them back tenfold in my experience now.

Jewels xxxxx

A strange little blog but I thought about it this morning and this is very off the cuff just like all my writing is, it comes from the heart - don't all the best things comes from there?